The Sex Factor
Well hello. Yes. I am well aware I have not blogged for four and a half months and. I am well aware it’s a bit cheeky just walking back in like nothing happened.
But what all of you are unaware of is – life has been BUSY BUSY BUSY. College is taking over my life. I’ve been working on my drama exam, a professional-standard performance, devised from scratch by me and 6 other people. The piece is called THE SEX FACTOR, and comments on the overt sexualization of the world, the media and questions it, and asks the question who is it really benefiting, but does so in a comedic, parodic, brechtian style (think placards, overacting, “oh what a lovely war”-esque comedy but more modern). That’s why I’ve been so “busy busy busy”.
I’ve been thinking though lately that although the media can be blatantly sexual for no reason at all, which is pointless, I don’t think it’s right to be ashamed of our sexual side. Everyone has a sexuality it’s just whether or not you choose to embrace it. Like pornography is supposedly degrading to a women, and a lot of it is, but i don’t think a person is in the wrong for watching it or enjoying it, and i don’t think that it equates to them degrading women (or men for that matter), I mean personally I never could, it’s just all cheesy and fake and silly and its more likely to make me laugh than provoke its intended response.
The fact is human beings will always have sexuality and this isn’t something that is ever going to go away. I think the whole world can afford to be a lot more open about it instead of treating it like a taboo, as its the reason we’re all alive now.
It should be as standard as talking about what you had for dinner. I know I sound crazy. But imagine if human sexuality was accepted to such a degree. There would be less homophobia, less prejudice, and less sexism because everyone of both genders would be completely open about it all. A man wouldn’t take advantage of a woman, he could just openly ask her for sex and she could say no, and neither person would think anything of it all. But instead due it’s taboo status, he takes advantage of her to force her to do it against her will, through subtlety and a silver tongue, which is much much worse.
Women would be allowed armpit hair and men would be allowed to shave their legs. And neither would be thought of as weird or gross, because we would have a universal acceptance of all different kinds of sexual expression. But instead, we’ve crammed everyone into boxes. Men and Women must look like THIS and THIS to be attractive sexually and must be attracted to THIS and THIS to be ‘normal’. When the fact of the matter is everyone looks different and is attracted to different things, whether its GLBT people, people with strange fetishes, etc.. which just damages everyone’s self-esteem and makes people question their sanity for not being ‘normal’. I actually hate the word ‘normal”. It’s such an ugly, bullying word. No one can be completely normal because it doesn’t exist, yet it destroys peoples sanity as they constantly seek it. I say why bother being normal. Who wants to be like everyone else?
Back on the sex topic though its no wonder so many people are sexually confused, in sexually unsatisfactory relationships and/or are unhappy with their sexuality, because society keeps pushing them into boxes. I say ignore the boxes.
Love and let love. Live and let live. Have sex with who you want to have sex with. Hopefully one day the world will stop being so embarrassed about it all and accept sexuality as a varied, natural entity.
I can envisage a world where people can do what they want and be with who they want and no one raises an eyebrow, as they have learnt to accept everyone is different sexually and expresses themselves differently. How did it all become so taboo, sexist, prejudiced and ignorant in the first place anyway?
Until next time, peace out guys x
